Growing up I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mom. However, going from a profession I loved to a stay at home mom wasn’t as dreamy as I imagined it would be. It was hard to keep up the house, hard to entertain kids all day, and hard to feel like I was contributing to the outside world.
After my 3rd child was born, I knew I wouldn’t be returning to work. I knew too many exhausted teachers trying to be the best mom, the best teacher, the best housekeeper, and the best taxi driver driving kids from one place to another. I couldn’t imagine our lives this way. The realization of this hit me like a ton of bricks, and I sank into a depression only a stay at home mom knows.
You see, I don’t enjoy cleaning or playing with kids. I find keeping a house exhausting and overwhelming, and playing with kids rather boring. What kind of stay at home mom was I if I didn’t like doing what a stay at home mom is supposedly supposed to be doing?
We decided to homeschool our children when our oldest was ready for kindergarten. After our first year of homeschooling it became crystal clear we wouldn’t ever go back. The blessings of homeschooling has brought much more understanding to my role in life, and I’d like to share the reasons I believe it has made me a better mom.
I’m Playing With My Kids
Because of my passion for making learning fun, my kids feel like we’re playing most of the day. This is how we play! Instead of being a part of the frustration of nightly homework, we are bonding by playing all morning long.
Better Understanding Of My Kids
Because I’m in charge of their learning I have a better understanding of their needs and interests. In public school it takes 6 weeks or more for a teacher to learn a child’s strength and weaknesses. I don’t have to wait for a teacher to tell me in what areas they are excelling or in what areas they need to improve. I KNOW. Also, with a child out of the home 35-40 hours a week, it’s hard to know what’s exactly going on in their life. The connection I feel with my children is very strong and powerful.
Let’s face it. Parenting is not for the faint of heart. When you begin to add education to parenting, you’re adding another level. Educating your children requires a lot of patience and a lot of focus. My focus is on my kids most of the day. When I’m planning out lessons, my focus is on them. When I’m teaching four hours out of the day, my focus is on them. If I were back in the classroom I’d be focused on twenty other kids 40 + hours a week. That wouldn’t give much time for my own kids.
More Teachable Moments
Our kids are with me all of the time. While there are cons to this, I’ve learned to embrace the pros. There are so many life lessons I get to instill in our kids every single day. I wouldn’t be able to influence as much if they were at school with their peers all day.
Aw….. sleep. I learned the hard way I don’t function well without sleep. Because we homeschool we get to set our own hours. If we need more sleep, we can start our school day a little later.
Truthfully, a big reason we decided to homeschool was so we didn’t have to rush in the morning. Getting 3 kids ready and out the door by 7:00 am every morning would not be a good thing for my blood pressure. Instead of rushing around like a chicken with it’s head cut off, I can get up 2 hours before my family, read, drink coffee, pray, exercise, and do a bit of housework. No rush + no pressure = a happy mama.
More Time/More Memories
Because our kids are only with us 5 years before heading to school, it seems time speeds up. Since we have flexibility with our schedule, we have more time to create memories. We don’t have to wait until school break to go on vacation. We don’t have to wait until the weekend to have fun.
Time With God
Another confession, I never thought about bible training before we began homeschooling. However, when I began to think about what our homeschool day would look like, I decided I wanted it to look like LIFE. What is life without GOD? Thus, bible study is the most important study of our day. It doesn’t matter what time we begin school or if anything unexpected happens. We always begin our day with the Bible. I can instill the importance of time with God and including Him throughout our day.
By the grace of God, I’ve come to realize homeschooling has made me a better mother. Homeschooling has been one of the best things to happen to our family. It has led me down the path of being the kind of mom I’ve always wanted to be.
Are you homeschooling? I’d love to hear YOUR real life homeschooling stories!
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